How Couples therapy works

What we will do

✓ to make your relationship a good place again

 

✓ to find your way back to love

 

✓ to improve your sex life

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Step by step into a more positive future

You can make an appointment online , write me using the contact form, send me an email or give me a call .

I will call or mail you back and we make an initial appointment of 1,5 hours (or 3 or 8 hours respectively). The duration of the first couples therapy session is up to you. If you prefer a consultation over a longer period of time, then book the regular 90 minute session. You can also book two sessions at once already in order to avoid a possible waiting time in between those meeting times. You can always cancel the second one within 36 hours before the appointment without any costs.

 

You also have the possibility to book an intense session of 3 hours or an entire power day! The reasons are often times a high urgency or a higher travel time. An entire day is tough, yet incredibly effective. You will get more information on it here. (verlinken)

I don’t do any trial sessions. However, if you (I) feel within the first half hour that it is not a good match, we can stop with no further costs. If you want, we could also do a 15 minute prep talk on the phone. Please write me an email with your preferred times and I will call you.

There is no minimum or maximum number of sessions. You decide how often and for how long you would like to work with me. Most people book between four and eight sessions. There are also couples who just want one or two counselling sessions for some quick impulses. And there are couples who keep coming back every three months or so to stay on track. In the end it is not the quick change, but the sustainable one that defines the success of a therapy.

The first session of couples therapy

During the first meeting we analyze what exactly is going wrong in your relationship. Are you trapped in a never ending dynamic of fights and can’t come out of it by yourselves? Or does one of you want more sex than the other? Can’t you really communicate well? No matter what it is that is putting your relationship in danger, it makes sense to talk to an expert about it.

 

During the first session we already take a look at what you want instead, where there is potential for change. You will get some in-depth homework that can be very enlightening already. This first session will already have such an impact that most couples answer the question “How are things?” with “Better”.

 

We don’t just want to solve your problems. We want you to be happy again. And that is a feeling and not a fact.

The follow-up sessions of couples therapy

You will already know how to break the dynamic of fights, or how to find your way back together, if an affair had troubled your relationship. Or what to do to improve your sex life. Now we go deeper. We find the reasons for your dynamics, the reasons for your problems. We want to understand and grow lots of empathy for yourself and your partner. It can also be that we do individual sessions in the course of the therapy, especially if the emotions get too heated in all dialogues or one of you needs support for an individual issue like a strong fear of loss, jealousy or problems with handling conflicts.

 

We will work on getting out of the negativity spiral and build your emotional back account again.

How high is the success rate?

If both really want to fix the relationship- pretty high. However, I don’t want to give you numbers here as they don’t matter. What matters is you and how much you are willing to invest. And I am not talking about money. Let’s get to work!

Forms of therapy

Couples Therapy

Couples therapy can help you to improve not only your relationship, but also your overall quality of life.

As a couple, you will find the right contact person here for all questions relating to sexuality, online or in my office

All topics related to relationships and other matters of the heart are heard here.